Many years ago, the famed Gottman Institute embarked on science-based journey to learn, record and tabulate all those “If onlys.”
Gottman researchers studied thousands of couples – those who were unhappy and those who were happy, some for more than 40 years – to learn what behaviors enhance or harm relationships. The Gottman findings are similar to the situations I encounter through my work as a couples therapist: seemingly minor behaviors are indicators of a relationship’s trajectory.
However, couples who learn new behaviors can elevate the direction of their relationship and successfully avoid the “If onlys” in their lives.
Gottman researchers studied thousands of couples – those who were unhappy and those who were happy, some for more than 40 years – to learn what behaviors enhance or harm relationships. The Gottman findings are similar to the situations I encounter through my work as a couples therapist: seemingly minor behaviors are indicators of a relationship’s trajectory.
However, couples who learn new behaviors can elevate the direction of their relationship and successfully avoid the “If onlys” in their lives.
