Defensiveness is perhaps the most common Horseman that any of us use when we feel offended or indignant or unfairly picked on. It can flash up in a millisecond. Anytime we feel attacked, accused, blamed or misrepresented we are prone to become defensive.
While it may be an understandable reaction, it is extremely unhelpful to any relationship and escalates conflict, making it that much more difficult to manage.
How a couple responds when a conflict arises is key to whether the relationship is heading toward lasting happiness or unhappiness and, perhaps, even divorce.
While it may be an understandable reaction, it is extremely unhelpful to any relationship and escalates conflict, making it that much more difficult to manage.
How a couple responds when a conflict arises is key to whether the relationship is heading toward lasting happiness or unhappiness and, perhaps, even divorce.
