It gives in to temptation very fast. Doesn’t listen to our sub-conscious mind and constantly holds duels and battles with it. It has to be tamed. If you know how self-help experts guide us with taming this shrewd mind, you will know the importance of it all. Louise Hay popularized the habit of standing in front of a mirror and saying to yourself ‘I love you’ first thing in the morning. When she tells us to say that, all she is doing is to train the mind into a positive frame.
How the mind works
Our mind is an abstract concept, independent of the brain but also aligned with it at the same time. Psychology, Spirituality, Neuroscience all look at the same mind through different perspectives. At birth, our mind has no identity of its own. Then we get a name so it identifies with the name. Slowly, the id, ego and superego start to develop. Concepts like Me, mine start to evolve. The mind starts identifying itself with the world. This identity is not independent but always in context to something else. Ex: Our idea of beauty should have been independent. But it is always in context with the standards set by the world which are actually different in different parts of the world at differing times. When the mind finds it difficult to adapt to the context of the world, it gets into a negative spiral. It’s very easy to fall into this abyss but very difficult to come out quickly. That is where positive affirmations help.
What are positive affirmations
They are like a soothing balm to a mind in turmoil. But they will not work if we merely say them without believing. The mind cannot differentiate between reality and fantasy. So when you watch a movie or a play, you end up experiencing all the emotions as though they were true scenarios. Taking cue from this, we can train our mind to adapt to situations better. A large part of our personality is shaped even by the time we reach the age of 6 and it stays for a lifetime. Early life experiences of a feeling of or hearing someone say about us triggering fear, abandonment, failure, incompetence or hatred shapes our personality in that mould. As we grow up, these emotions override and it takes some effort for us to steer the mind towards positivity through positive affirmations.
Self talk through positive affirmations helps in several scenarios
In cases of people with a negative mindset that prevents them from aiming big or achieving meaningful success
- In interpersonal conflicts where a person’s insecurity makes it impossible to establish strong relationships with others
- In students who are marred in self doubt about academic abilities and success
- In patients with psycho somatic disorders who need help with a change in mindset
- In people suffering from depression
- In people with low self esteem and those are absolutely not assertive
- In insomniacs who lose sleep over worry and anxiety
- For sportsperson and competitive people who need to maintain a positive attitude and frame of mind for long duration’s
- For people, especially adolescents and women, facing identity crisis
- For people with negative concepts of body and beauty. Read more....